Catch the last glimmers of sun
Before the dawn breaks in,
The twilight hour has its own mysticism,
Realizations set in
It's too late now.
I ran from the things I once yearned for,
Machoism I no longer pretend to understand,
A cold splash of reality
Confronting it was too much to bear.
I ran again.
The cubicle where I belong now,
Chamber of delusions,
Pretenses and daydreams
To keep my heart deluded and warped in its own reverie.
An incessant need to feel loved,
A mirage of a life where my heart feels warm and snug, Tucked between a liminal place,
Where life and hope seem to overlay each other.
In the passway, I lay floating like stilled waves of water, Waiting for the high tides on a full moon night.
Wee hours in the morning,
Scrambling to find meaning
Where it ceases to exist.
I once was happy, I was content,
And my eyes glimmered with endless prospects that the future upheld,
When my mind can no longer bear the onslaught of boundless,
Reminiscence of the past.
I ponder deeply in retrospect,
Trying to pinpoint where it all went wrong,
A familial ache in my chest,
Alone I crawl and bleed,
Latching onto anything that will calm the paranoid stream of thoughts.
I turn to God In my darkest hour.
I sin all day, crawl to God at night,
The bottom of rock bottom,
Where logic doesn't seem important.
I'll run to anything that'll help, anything.
I sob and screech,
maybe tomorrow will be better, I can only hope.
I want to believe in God,
to have someone I always have,
A rock that I can latch myself onto when misery arises.
But the universe seems too cruel,
To be made by such a loving force,
They contradict each other so poorly,
It's almost comical.
Parts of me that are lost,
People seemed to love,
Hope for life; I've lost it all.
I'm so close to acceptance of it all,
It'll all be peaceful then.
Isolation works wonders,
I can no longer derive meaning from people,
Trying to find solace in solitude,
Something to drown me in,
Even so, failing at it miserably.
I need a friend, someone to cry to,
I want to listen,
Tell each other our darkest secrets,
Just the warmth of another human beside me.
The child in me was promising,
My cup is empty now.
I've poured it all out to soothe my wounds,
Yet they never seem to go away.
I don't have the mere energy to appear normal, Talk, act accordingly.
I feel empty

Back story for a bit as he also has a Reddit - but I (24f) and my husband (40m) have been together for nearly 3 years and married for 8 months. As our relationship has by far been the best I ( and he too ) have personally have. I’m struggling with a few things. We meet through mutual friends and both were reserved/respectful of a few things and considering both the good and bad. Despite it all we hit it off. Dated for almost 2 engaged married etc. Needless to say we have been through a lot together.
Fairly early on before we considered us “ dating or a couple “ we discussed boundaries/respect in our relationship as to what we both would like or want to receive. What would be a plain and simple no or a hey let’s sit and talk topic. The biggest reason I left my last relationship was due to my previous partners porn addiction/liking other women’s post work relationships that were more than just a female co worker etc. I ask my now husband if he used anything of this nature in his last relationship and he said he did but did not want that in this relationship and respected my wishes/thoughts/views on the topic. To some porn is porn or onlyfans is onlyfans but to me it’s disrespectful and hurtful as I do not look like I did when we first met.
Fast forward two month before we were due to wed I found a fansly and onlyfans account that was active and active as in days recent to me finding it. I confronted he confessed and we talked/moved on. It hurt me as it made me question my entire relationship/marriage and who I am to him and the though has never left my mind truly. Needless to say a month into our marriage I fell pregnant with our first of course we were over the moon but I’ve noticed a difference in him. As he’s supportive super excited and over the moon as well but he simply looks at me differently. He swears he doesn’t and nothing will change the way he loves or looks at me but I just simply know. BUT he’s back at it again with the onlyfans/fansly & TikTok/NSFW TikTok/porn & Reddit post he’s following - same cycle confront confess move on. Well not once but TWICE have I found these things as in like days ago. I mean just beautiful women and it’s crushing me. I no longer am 100 pounds of fit and athletically built. I no longer have a 6 pack and toned legs and arms. I no longer have the desired body I feel like he wish I had. We are very intimate together or have been I should say. He hasn’t touched me sexually in over a month and if we have done anything together it’s me giving BJs ( which I don’t mind but still hurting ) he claims work has been the buffer lately And his line of work is stressful and it does get in the way at times but I feel he’s getting his release/attention else where.
Needless to say I’m stuck and I just need someone to listen.

Hello guys, garals, unties, ankuls, pillalu, musalollu.. I moved to hyderabad some 15 years back, tired of roaming out and catching up with the latest hangout places and tying new cuisines that's trending. I am looking for some introvert baddakists who can invite me to their home to have a watch party. You can cook rice, i can bring curries. We can order food in swiggy, or else, get from kaka biryani if we're in money crunch. ..
Im 34M and kindly dont DM me if you are looking for other activities partners LUL...
Mostly i am free all day.. WFH eh kabatti.. So i can catch up anytime anyday. Missed call isthe chalu.
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Unta malla... Bye bai..

I live in a shared flat, last autumn all my roommates moved for various reasons (new bf, new job, study abroad) and I got 3 new flatmates. For unrelated reasons I was in a low place and stopped taking care of myself, bills and whatnot. Just went into survival mode, went to work and went back home. I quickly got back on track after a few months and sorted everything out. Sadly tho I never told two of my new flatmates that I was responsible for the electric bill, and they would have to pay me monthly for it. So now I'm terrified of telling them that they owe me almost a years worth of their share of the bill and don't know how to tell them.
It's a large sum, not enormous, I have been able to pay it myself, but I'd rather not let my inaction and fear rule me anymore. One of them are away back at their parents for the summer and the other one is leaving any day now for the same. Hopefully I'll get enough courage to do it while they are away.
Any advice would be appreciated, thanks

I (M) talked to this girl on Hinge for about a week and met up a couple days ago. Conversation was great, she was super cute, I got her number and we moved off-app pretty quickly, and she confirmed with me before the date that we were both looking for the same thing: a long-term relationship.
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The date was amazing. One of the best I've ever been on. We talked about so many things and the vibe the whole time was really fun and flirty. We were making plans to meet up later in the week and everything seemed to be going really well. She seemed like a really honest and genuine person and we talked about a lot of things that I wouldn't expect to talk about on the first date. We got dinner, walked around the town, made out on a bench. I walked her back to her car with plans to meet up at her place the next day. She texted me when she got home and thanked me for a great night.
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She texted me good morning the next day. Things were continuing much as they had before the date. She said she had a headache after work and wanted to take a nap, and I had no reason not to believe her. She texted me a few hours later saying she was feeling better, so I asked what her plans were for the evening, expecting her to invite me over. Instead, she said she had a great time last night but realized she isn't looking to date. She assured me it's not me, she just isn't ready for a relationship right now.
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I was really blindsided by this and I've been hurt and confused since she told me. I haven't gotten this many green flags from a date in a long time, and we had great chemistry in person. I just can't wrap my head around it. I know she either isn't into me, which doesn't make sense to me given the vibe on the date, or she's seeing someone else and didn't want to tell me, which could make sense. Or she's telling the truth. Maybe she's just scared of commitment.
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I know there's nothing I could have done to change her mind, and I don't think there's anything I would have done differently. It's just really frustrating and confusing to have that kind of chemistry in person and get nothing but green flags for the whole night into most of the next day only for her to change her mind. I know it was literally one date, but I hadn't felt this way about anyone in a long time. I guess I appreciate her letting me know instead of ghosting me. I'm going to take a break from dating for awhile, and I'm sure I'll feel better given a bit of time, but this whole situation is really frustrating and confusing. I wish her all the best and I hope she finds happiness in whatever way she needs, but I really thought we could have had that together. It feels like I'm setting myself up for failure when I get excited about dates at all anymore, because there's a chance of something like this happening. It just sucks man

Hello,
I recently moved to the city, so my language is still weak, thats why I am looking for a driving school that teaches in English.
I have Polish driving license for three years, but I haven't driven a car for a year.
I would like to spend 2 to 4 hours on the streets of the Koln to remind myslef the rules and not to create danger on the roads, especially since I have no experience with trams/bhans.
Could you please recommend me some driving schools (with manual gear) to feel more secure since im a woman. I live near Müllheim.
Sorry for broken english.
Thank you in advance

I have a friend coming from Scotland, and I am looking for some place for him to rent while he's here. He'll be here on the 20th until July 6th. If anyone has a room or an apartment or whatever, hit me up.

I’ve (26F) been seeing this visiting European student (25M), say John, for the last couple of months- fully aware he is leaving next month. Anyway, I noticed one of his female friends was being handsy with him, would give me evil eye whenever I was around and would post stories that they were hanging out (during times I wouldn’t hear from him). While this was happening, he invited me to come to his bday party and I was on the fence bc I didn’t want to go to this event and have his other lover start drama or rub it in my face. I made it clear that I didn’t care what he did but that I’d like him to let me know if he started to have sex w anyone else (I would stop sleeping with him and we would just remain friends). I made it clear that I didn’t want to come to the party if he had something going on with her or anyone else- I didn’t want to be disrespected or humiliated.
He said they shared a kiss before we met but that he was uninterested and is only sleeping with me even though we hadn’t said we were exclusive. He sounded truthful and we went on to fully agree we wouldn’t sleep with anyone until he leaves at the end of the month.
Welp, I went to the party on Friday (party full of Europeans). The girl threw a fit and sat on the floor of the outdoor patio to try to get John’s attention. He didn’t go to her out of respect for me but I honestly think he would’ve gone if I wasn’t there. And when he didn’t go to her, she proceeded to make out with his other female friend in front of him, me, and the female friend’s partner. John commented that I didn’t need to worry about his female friend bc she was preoccupied with making out w someone else. Everyone else was weirdly fine with this show that was clearly a means of trying to get John’s attention but I knew better.
The party extended to a dancing club, John and his friends started talking about me and the female friend in another language as I stood beside them. It was rude and I found that this + the drama his female friend was causing, upset me and so I started to find excuses to abruptly excuse myself (I couldn’t leave bc my bike was in his basement so I felt like a stuck animal). Apparently John’s friends thought my behavior was weird and after the club closed, John angrily expressed he didn’t understand why I acted the way I did. He insisted I still sleep over his place and even though he was still angry, cuddled with me. I was upset but still apologized for my behavior and hoped that he still enjoyed his bday. He said he just doesn’t understand me sometimes and we fell asleep in each others arms. His friends called him in the morning saying they were coming over to his place to have coffee (likely to gossip about what happened the night before). He told them to give him an hour. We had sex, and he didn’t invite me to stay for coffee like he usually does. He gave me his usual goodbye kiss and just told me to have a good weekend. Haven’t heard from him since Saturday morning.
Like I want to hear from him but I’m not going to reach out bc I don’t like the way that party left me feeling and I feel silly that I let myself be involved in unnecessary drama and I’m not even in a relationship with this dude. Insert clown emoji. Want a read of the situation from random internet strangers. Think he will reach out or he’s done?

Hey all! I'm casually dating someone who has ADHD and autism. It's a pretty new relationship. Things were going along pretty smoothly until he left for an extended summer vacation recently. Our communication kinda nosedived off a cliff bc he kept getting distracted, which I understand.
I knew he had trouble with consistent communication from the start, and before the vacation it honestly didn't bother me beyond mild annoyance every now and then. I'm the kind of person who gets stressed out at texting etiquette anyway bc I highly value my personal time (like, reading for a few hours while not checking my phone), so I often end up offending people for not texting back quickly enough.
Now tho, I'm definitely struggling with feeling unwanted. I know that just bc he hasn't been texting me, it doesn't mean that he doesn't care about me. I've had friends who've had ADHD and AuDHD so I've had some experience with this before. But really trying to get that through my head is difficult considering that I've been in a relationship before where I was ignored at times bc they ran off to cheat on me.
So, I guess I don't even know what I'm asking for? Except maybe some affirmation that lack of texting =/= not caring. Or whatever tips anyone has for staying mindful of that fact. I honestly feel like it's something I'll just adjust to well with time (and working through my own insecurities with a therapist), even tho it's a little rough right now.
Note: reposted under a different title bc I realized that object permanence was not the correct term to use in place of forgetfulness! Sorry about that!

Hi everyone, I'm brand new to this, so I'm after some recommendations and advice.
I have the following that I hope CBD oil/drops might be able to help me with.
Depression - for nearly 30 years. Insomnia for a similar period. Anxiety/tension/inability to relax, probably for similar period again, although I'm more aware of it in the last few years. Would be lovely to find something that allows me to relax.
About me: early 50s, overweight, no other health issues. I drive for a living, and I'm not looking to get high and definitely would not want anything in my system that could put me over the driving limit and risk my licence. I'm in the UK. Have mainly been looking on Amazon as this feels slightly safer place to buy anything and obviously has reviews. Initially considered trying this after spotting an ad on Facebook for a product called Trip. Comments seemed positive but who knows with the ability to delete negative ones easily there. Amazon only gives 4 stars. Holland and Barrett gives 5 🤷🏻‍♂️ no doubt you all can probably recommend something better. I'm definitely not rich and if I find something that works it would be nice to be able to keep using it, so hopefully recommendations are not too pricey.
Thanks in advance.

exactly what the title says! what’s ur fav Indian place around? preferably vb, but open to the surrounding cities. (i saw this question was asked before in this sub but it was years ago so i wanted to see something more recent) thanks in advance
yall never let me down w these recs !!

Hi, I've been on saxenda for nearly 3 weeks now - and I've lost 2lbs (or 1kg).
Just feeling a bit defeated. I feel sick all the time, awful headaches and bad indigestion (and I'm definitely eating less!) but not noticing anything from it. I've upped my walking too so I'm getting in around 10,000 steps 4 or 5x weekly (I have really bad anxiety and don't really like leaving the house so this is a big improvement for me!)
Any ideas on how to assist?

1I presume and set my mind up about places and judge people and then judge me according to them it's messing me up, what do I do to stop doing this, and I'm unable to enjoy because of this habit of mine.

Hi everyone, a few weeks back Conan the Barbarian #0 dropped as part of FCBD and I pretty much fell in love. Never read Conan before (outside of the one issue that Esad Ribic wrote and drew) and this has pretty much convinced me to pre-order the new series on the spot.
One of the things I was really struck by, outside of Roberto De La Torre's gorgeous artwork, is how well constructed the issue is. In particular, I feel like it has a lot to say about the nature of place(s) within the story of Conan.
I've linked an article I've published on the topic - if anyone is interested in why it resonated so much with me I'd greatly appreciate if you'd check it out. Hopefully, if you've not picked up the book, it might encourage you to do the same!
https://www.visionistcove.com/comics/conan-the-barbarian-0-fcbd-2023/

On June 2, ProPublica published an abbreviation of an interview of former Kimber exec Ryan Busse, who became a Senior Advisor to Giffords in 2021, written by Corey G. Johnson. I will attempt to counter the points and opinions and support in the article. Same disclaimer as before: please forgive my typos and mistakes as I am copying, pasting, and writing on my phone.
Question Three: “What do you say to people who make the argument that guns are protected by the Second Amendment and that, yes, a deranged person here or there may do something bad, but is it fair to punish or penalize law-abiding gun owners with unnecessary or extra government intervention?”
Before I get to Busse’s response, let me say; loaded question. Also, can we stop calling ourselves “Law-Abiding Gun Owners” and just say “Responsible Gun Owners?” Because technically, law-abiding would mean if a law abhorrent to the Constitution was passed, we would obey it. But as Responsible Gun Owners, if such a law was passed, we would not idiotically flaunt non-compliance, necessarily, but we would oppose it and fight it and work for its repeal.
But I digress yet again!
Ryan Busse mimics the age old “I am a gun owner. I hunt and shoot with my boys,” but also says the right to own firearms requires “a commensurate amount of responsibility.” Gotta say, I chose “Responsible Gun Owners” before Ryan says we should be responsible. However, he also advocates for personal responsibility “to be legislated” if it is not voluntary. Once again, we have numerous gun laws on record incentivizing safe use and responsible ownership, laws with accompanying punishments for endangering, harming, or threatening others.
He then voices support for universal background checks and “strengthened red flag laws,” claiming neither are “in any way an infringement” or our rights. I am now invoking Robert Duvall from Second Hand Lions, where, suspicious of what he is growing in his garden with his brother and great-nephew, angrily mutters “wait just a d*** minute.” I can almost understand how someone who does not believe the 2nd Amendment protects an individual right to own and use firearms, but there are other rights we have protected in the Bill of Rights which are obviously in conflict with Red Flag Laws.
The 4th Amendment protects us from unreasonable searches AND SIEZURES. For it to be reasonable, any seizure is to be accompanied by Warrants supported by proper investigation and sufficient evidence laid forth. Even if supporters consider red flags to be “reasonable” under the burden of the 4th Amendment, the 5th Amendment prohibits deprivation of property without “due process of law,” which is commonly understood to include an impartial trial with presentation of evidence, and confrontation with the accuser, per the 6th Amendment. Also, unless your firearms, magazines, or anything else seized is somehow costing less than $25, a trial by jury is required by the 7th Amendment. So even if we lay aside our 2nd Amendment argument, there are potential violations of four other Amendments encased in the Bill of Rights. I doubt it is a surprise to anyone how likely it is for someone to be willing to violate the 2nd Amendment to also be willing to violate any other protected freedoms (insert Jack from Hook when he hollers “Bad Form!!!”)
Question Four: “Are there others in the gun industry who share your view?”
Ryan Busse begins by claiming his espoused opinions were popular in the gun industry ”before the sort of radical shifts started to happen in about 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008.” He then says “when you earn a paycheck from something, you’re likely to be greatly influenced by it,” continuing by saying “there is only a place for complete, 100% devotion” in the gun industry now. I am going to violate a rule of debate here, and delve into ad hominem territory; I find it hypocritical to claim a person is influenced by where they gather their paycheck, while this guy now works for a Gun Control Group, and his brand is now completely encapsulated as the “Former Gun Exec who now supports Gun Control.” I don’t think I am alone is thinking this.
But I have once again digressed!
I know for an absolute fact there are varied views of the shadow cast by the 2nd Amendment and how far it extends and what allowances can be made under it in our own communities. There is the oft criticized Fudd, the LARPer, the Prepper, the Fed Boi Bootlicker, etc., who all hold different opinions and cite different authorities to strengthen their argument. There are those who say anyone who is not in prison should have guns, and others who support limitations on firearm style, magazine capacities, want strict licensing programs, and desire ongoing and frequent interviews and background checks and training to continue to possess a single firearm. I get that. So I am certain most gun industry employees hold a view outside of 2A Absolutism.
Now, executives and those with President in their titles might be more likely to be targeted by Busse’s statement, but even there I can immediately think of three parties who, though they have built their brand as 2A advocates, are seen as turncoats; Tim Kennedy (for endorsing age restrictions for adults on purchasing/possessing ar-15s), Big Daddy Unlimited (endorsing a gun buy back in Florida), and BRCC (donating to Democrat politicians among a host of other personal stuff). This is not to become a post attacking these parties, but just a representation of how there is definitely a wide range of 2nd Amendment interpretations even within the gun industry, and it is far from Absolutism.

We have just started walking our boy and he's extremely food driven but the last two walks he's had we can barely get his attention with treats because he just seems so overwhelmed by all the sights and smells of the park. Anyone got any tips or is this something he'll get used to once he's settled into walks a bit more? He's not too bad on his lead but cause he's so intrigued by everything he does have a tendency to suddenly walk infront of you and has nearly tripped me and my partner up several times 😅

Hello Everyone, I am an amateur photographer and still getting better day by day. I would like to know while taking portraits in an event, is it a wise decision to buy 2 Godox AD200s one on each side? Or should I buy just 1 AD600 pro strobe? Also please let me know if you find any powerful tutorials on how to place lights in any events. TIA

1I presume and set my mind up about places and judge people and then judge me according to them it's messing me up, what do I do to stop doing this, and I'm unable to enjoy because of this habit of mine.

If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it's magical or out of reach - a special ability or superpower that someone is born with.
But it's not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen to you. In this article, I'm going to break down those steps.
The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who's really good with women and someone who's not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who's ready to make out.
I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it's true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down.
You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this "make-out ready" state, so you can walk up and be "that guy."
Don't buy into the myth that women don't want this to happen.
Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this "turbo" make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying kind of mean to a lot of guys in the babeing resentful and angry because no one's approaching them.
By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you're able to make out within 40 seconds or less in the first place.
There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.

What to look for

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.
Let me explain... When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called "Eye Accessing Cues." When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she's accessing her emotional brain.
If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she's saying: "I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I'm looking down." And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn't just use her eyes to look down), she's physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.
This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.
Now, if she looks at you, smiles, and doesn't look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she's meeting you head-on, and not showing immediate submission.
Women who you're going to be able to walk up to and make out within 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role of a woman. That's one quality that shows you'll be able to quickly make out with her.
Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she's not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It's going to take much longer.
Again, you're going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can't just walk up and make out with her.
So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she's constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that's a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.
Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably be a lot more resistant.
Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.
Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out within 40 seconds.
This kind of woman is looking for attention - not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care" and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who's in between those two extremes.
A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don't want to over-dress or underdress, and don't know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They'll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).
That's what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.
If not, I'd actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.
Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you're going to walk up and start the scary part.

What To Do

This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It's very, very important that you understand how to control someone else's frame if you want to come across like you're a pro at this.
By "frame," I basically mean their "reality." You're controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.
I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I'll explain as quickly as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it...
Here's what I would say, word for word... Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh…"
Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, "Wait just one moment."
You can also say, "Stop for one minute." I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or "don't," they immediately register whatever comes after that.
So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head.
So if I said, "Don't try to make out with me," or "Don't make out with me right now," girls are going to be consciously hearing, "Don't make out with me," but their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Make out with me right now!"
You're attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, "I should make out with this guy."
Now, during frame control you'll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.
Don't try to seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.
So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with "don't" or "wait" or "stop."
My typical response is "Don't worry... right now." That's all I say. And I slow that speech down – "Don't…worry…....... right now."
Then I go right into the next statement, which is, "You and I are going to have a secret. We're going to secretly kiss and no one will know."
And as I'm saying this, I'm leaning in... and you'll be doing the same when you do it. You're leaning in ever... so... slowly. At the same time, you're looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again.
This is called "Triangulating." Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two... etc. Do that about three or four times as you're talking.
This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn't expect you're going to get it perfect the first time.
So again, you say, "We're going to have a secret. We're going to kiss and no one is going to know." From here on out, you're really just filling up space with words as you're leaning in so you're still controlling the interaction.
So you're going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand – whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won't pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.
Signs That It's Working
Is she looking at your lips? If she's looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.
This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It's a strange loophole in psychology.
For some reason, that's how we are as humans. When someone turns away and then turns back, we give them another chance to move forward. So if you're getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.
If she's looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You'll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.
!Important!
In a loud environment like a bar, you'll want to speak louder, but don't raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.
Then you're going to keep talking... What I usually say is, "No one is going to see this. It's just going to be our little secret. I promise I won't tell anybody only if you promise that you won't tell anybody either."
As I'm saying this into her ear, I make sure that she's feeling my breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I'm speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.
This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.
As you're speaking really close to her ear, you'll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you're talking. Then you'll move your head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then... you'll start kissing her.
And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck... then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds - I've done it in less time, and I've seen other guys do it, too.

Practice It

What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.
You won't use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, it's really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.
Whenever you see a girl who's in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk, or generally waste time, she'll be turned off and you've lost a golden seduction opportunity.
Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that that's what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman... and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.
There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality... how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesn't turn off any of her weird alert switches... specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure she's totally in your zone.
What's taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these shortcuts can also improve your game with women.
Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember – it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less.

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I’ve (26F) been seeing this visiting European student (25M), say John, for the last couple of months- fully aware he is leaving next month. Anyway, I noticed one of his female friends was being handsy with him, would give me evil eye whenever I was around and would post stories that they were hanging out (during times I wouldn’t hear from him). While this was happening, he invited me to come to his bday party and I was on the fence bc I didn’t want to go to this event and have his other lover start drama or rub it in my face. I made it clear that I didn’t care what he did but that I’d like him to let me know if he started to have sex w anyone else (I would stop sleeping with him and we would just remain friends). I made it clear that I didn’t want to come to the party if he had something going on with her or anyone else- I didn’t want to be disrespected or humiliated.
He said they shared a kiss before we met but that he was uninterested and is only sleeping with me even though we hadn’t said we were exclusive. He sounded truthful and we went on to fully agree we wouldn’t sleep with anyone until he leaves at the end of the month.
Welp, I went to the party on Friday (party full of Europeans). The girl threw a fit and sat on the floor of the outdoor patio to try to get John’s attention. He didn’t go to her out of respect for me but I honestly think he would’ve gone if I wasn’t there. And when he didn’t go to her, she proceeded to make out with his other female friend in front of him, me, and the female friend’s partner. John commented that I didn’t need to worry about his female friend bc she was preoccupied with making out w someone else. Everyone else was weirdly fine with this show that was clearly a means of trying to get John’s attention but I knew better.
The party extended to a dancing club, John and his friends started talking about me and the female friend in another language as I stood beside them. It was rude and I found that this + the drama his female friend was causing, upset me and so I started to find excuses to abruptly excuse myself (I couldn’t leave bc my bike was in his basement so I felt like a stuck animal). Apparently John’s friends thought my behavior was weird and after the club closed, John angrily expressed he didn’t understand why I acted the way I did. He insisted I still sleep over his place and even though he was still angry, cuddled with me. I was upset but still apologized for my behavior and hoped that he still enjoyed his bday. He said he just doesn’t understand me sometimes and we fell asleep in each others arms. His friends called him in the morning saying they were coming over to his place to have coffee (likely to gossip about what happened the night before). He told them to give him an hour. We had sex, and he didn’t invite me to stay for coffee like he usually does. He gave me his usual goodbye kiss and just told me to have a good weekend. Haven’t heard from him since Saturday morning.
Like I want to hear from him but I’m not going to reach out bc I don’t like the way that party left me feeling and I feel silly that I let myself be involved in unnecessary drama and I’m not even in a relationship with this dude. Insert clown emoji. Want a read of the situation from random internet strangers. Think he will reach out or he’s done?